17 Early Signs That Show They’re Not The Right Person For You

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1. They are not pulling their weight in initiating spending time with you. It’s not that they’re not available to you, it’s just that they always seem to be the responder and never the initiator. When you first start seeing someone, the give-and-take is really important. And if you become the sole giver and they become the sole taker, it can only lead to disaster.

2. They are always so so so busy. But aren’t we all? If elected officials, astronauts, med, JD, and PhD students, etc. make time to date, so can everybody else. When someone is interested in being with you, they will make time to be with you. And they will ensure you know you’re a priority to them even if they have a lot on their plate. “Busy” excuses, generally speaking, are bullshit.

3. Whatever their phone communication style is – whether its…

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Sometimes, what’s lost can still be found

The truth is that I cannot wait for the semester to be over. I am not my usual self these past few weeks and I feel really disappointed. I know I could have done so much better both at work and graduate school.

I have been setting up random meet-ups with some friends, thinking it could help me figure out what is wrong; why the string of drive suddenly snapped within the chasms of my being.

One of my best friends said that the problem was I easily get distracted, which I blandly admit. I acknowledge the fact that there was a certain someone who stirred me out of focus. I’ve already had my lonely days accompanied by music and poetry. Now, it is time to bounce back. But while we’re at it, can I at least rant about this a little bit?

I mean, I don’t get why some people can be so indecisive. I do not, for the love of Pete, understand how someone can be so indulging and drawn back at the same time. Was it something I did? I said? Did I come off a bit strong, aggressive, intimidating? Clingy, perhaps? Whaaaat? Why this sudden coldness? It gets so frustrating because every time I open up my heart to someone and I feel like it is time to take a risk…that person flees away faster than a cheetah.

I do not deserve this. No. I won’t pretend that I have the answers to my queries because frankly, I am still confused. But, I won’t let this rattle me. I mean, come on. He’s just a boy, Cindy. Remember that. He is just a boy.

Anyway, a dinner with one of my college friends last week helped me a lot too. He brought old newspapers that we worked on together during our stint as editors for our college student publication. He showed me my column. There I was…still with long, black curly hair. My mug shot was sporting my bare face without glasses. It felt weird looking at my 19-year-old self because she was staring back at me, as if reminding me of the determination I somehow forgotten. The editorial I wrote was about the Law of Jante, one of the concepts I read from Paulo Coelho’s books.

*Friend: Look at that girl, Cinds. Andyan siya somewhere inside you. Find her again. Go back to your core. Basahin mo out loud yung title ng column mo…

*Me: “Substance over Facades”

*Friend: Do not ever forget that principle.

Hence, I am typing this blog entry right now. Because one of the few things that keep me sane is writing…and sleeping…and praying…and being alone in public places…(the list goes on).

I think that’s what I lost along the way…the fearlessness, the passion that got me to where I am now, the ability to translate into words the emotions my mind cannot comprehend. Maybe with all that is happening around me, the young Cindy chose to stay behind because I was busy unconsciously conforming to the standards.

WHAT.WAS.I.THINKING?!

This has to end right now. I think, after a lot of prayers and soul searching through silence in parks and cafes, I found the old Cindy again; the Cindy that does not let anyone define her dreams and expectations, the Cindy that fights back but still knows when to compromise.

She’s back. And hopefully, she will never leave again. That, of course, will already be up to me.

50 Heartwarming Ways To Say, ‘I Love You,’ Without Actually Saying It

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Sometimes we’re so caught up remembering to tell others we love them. Sometimes we’re so busy we forget to do it altogether. We forget that each day we remind our loved ones we care about them, and each day they remind us—usually without actually saying those three words directly. Here are fifty things we regularly do and say that show others we care:

1. “Do you want to wear my coat?”

2. “How was your exam?”

3. Checking in when they have the flu.

4.”Would you like anything from the store?”

5. “How did you sleep last night?”

6. Surprising them with their favorite candy.

7. “Don’t forget to bring your umbrella—it’s supposed to rain.”

8. “I saw this and thought of you.”

9. “Your hair looks great like that.”

10. Reminding them that their hard work…

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And I thought it was a place for refuge / Travelling responsibly.

THE GIRL FROM MANILA.

And it wasn’t, after all. Mt Kiltepan is now scarred because of this terrible scene. I used to think that places such as Mt Kiltepan are places worth spending time alone in. It’s like a place for those moments when you want to watch the world go by, clouds fly past you, and the sun shining its light on you. Then this happened:

0408-kiltepanFor a person like me who prefers alone time over “me and a lot of people” time, I find the scene truly horrific. (Enter someone exclaiming, “‘Tangina, arte mo!”) You see, this is basically the stuff of nightmares, travelling nightmares, that is. Travellers who wish to travel with no crowds following them around are travellers who will be overjoyed to see a beautiful place such as Mt Kiltepan and have it all for themselves.

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9 Ways Guarded People Show They Love You

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1. They hug you.

It’s not the hugs that are a greeting, or a prelude to sex, but the hugs that happen seemingly randomly. The two of you will be in the kitchen making dinner, and they just come up and hug you from behind. It doesn’t seem like a lot, but giving an unsolicited gesture of affection means a lot to them.

2. They say they like you.

Admitting that they’re fond of anything is kind of a big deal to them, so when they mention that they kind of don’t hate your presence all of the time, just know that they really mean that they would miss you quite a bit if you weren’t there. If they actually drop the “love” word, you can bet the house that they’re in this for the long haul.

3. When they’re upset, they don’t shut you out.

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Disconnect

I have this habit of pushing people away. It’s like an ‘on and off’ switch that ticks every time I start having feelings for someone or, most often than not, if I just feel the need to stay away from a person (for no apparent reason!)

I am so weird. Sometimes, I just want to disappear. I am very moody and complicated and AAAAAH! Frankly, I have no idea why I am like this. Maybe it’s a defense mechanism or an unconscious attempt to put people off. I fear pain. I hate goodbyes. Basically, I am a coward and paranoid and maybe borderline bipolar. And I do not know if at this rate, I would find someone who would want to deal with all these chaos and sh**.

There’s always so many things going on my mind. All at once. I can’t help it. My brain is a vast ocean of thoughts. And people close to me know that I’ve always been like this.

I just want to apologize. To you, dear person who I think is so smart, talented, kind, amazing, patient and enigmatic. If you ever feel that there is a wall between us on some days, it’s not you. It’s me. Because I am not very good at showing what’s truly inside me. I am, however, good at pretending. And making you feel like you don’t matter…when in fact, you do. You really really do.

21 Heart-Punching Quotes That Will Make You Fall In Love With Poetry

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It’s no secret that I love poetry. Like, if I could wake up and eat poetry for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, I probably would. (Okay, sometimes I do). I’ve put together a list with quotes from some of my favorite poets, and let me tell you, *feels* will be felt. All feels relevant.


“You could tie my tongue
My lips, my teeth
Split them into surrender
Into a foreign language
And I would still manage
To cough up your name.”

– Danielle Shorr, “Let”


“Here I love you.
Here I love you and the horizon hides you in vain.
I love you still among these cold things.
Sometimes my kisses go on those heavy vessels
that cross the sea towards no arrival.
I see myself forgotten like those old anchors.”

– Pablo Neruda, “Here I Love You”


“They don’t know I only speak in runaway train…

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